acfreema wrote:I am exceedingly disgusted with this notion that we are somehow failures for not leaving our parent/s' homes at an arbitrarily determined age. If one cannot find gainful employment, how could one be expected to fend for themselves?
It's not so much failures as... moochers, horrible human beings using someone's love against them to suck every single penny they can get out of another person.
If someone is 18 and is paying fair market value rent for their bedroom and utilities and doing all the cooking and cleaning (or literally paying for all of their own food) AND their transport (car payment, insurance, gas, maintenance or bus pass), then bravo.
The other way (and potentially less valid way since it may never come to be) I can see adults living with their parents as acceptable is if you plan on 100% supporting your parents after they retire, which you plan on doing even if your future spouse utterly opposes it (to the point of divorce even).
But no... I know so many people that are 24+ years old and have their parents fully support them. A few have jobs, but that's just their own personal spending money- their parents still pay for their rent, car, children, vacations, (and paid for their) college, etc. And they just feel... entitled to it.
*Leaving out people with illnesses from this. That's an actual reason not to support yourself, not just "waahh, they won't give me $40 an hour for answering phones, so I refuse to do anything!"