I got a divorce after finding out my husband was gay. They should really have a whole separate category for spouses like me, but instead I'll be forever labeled as "divorced" and not "no really, he lied to me about being gay, what was I supposed to do, stay married to him?"

Need a category for: Outlook Uncertain. Good, single, gay men are hard to find in the DC-area...

How about "no, and I like it that way!" as an answer option.

bklyn248 wrote:How about "no, and I like it that way!" as an answer option.

Amen.

45 years and counting...and counting...and counting.

lola1704 wrote:I got a divorce after finding out my husband was gay. They should really have a whole separate category for spouses like me, but instead I'll be forever labeled as "divorced" and not "no really, he lied to me about being gay, what was I supposed to do, stay married to him?"

Dang, that really would be a whole separate poll! I am so sorry you were deceived and betrayed. I only hope your life now is getting better all the time. You certainly have it coming to you!!
God bless!!
Jo

mhaha520 wrote:Amen.

Got to throw in another AMEN !!! on that

bklyn248 wrote:How about "no, and I like it that way!" as an answer option.

Exactly!!

Don't believe in marriage. I consider it a form of slavery.

bklyn248 wrote:How about "no, and I like it that way!" as an answer option.

Thank you

Yes, I'm married. Do I hate it? No. Do I love it?????? Sometimes? I'm glad I did it, but I think people who LOVE being married are taking drugs.

bklyn248 wrote:How about "no, and I like it that way!" as an answer option.

That'd be my choice!

mjc613 wrote:Yes, I'm married. Do I hate it? No. Do I love it?????? Sometimes? I'm glad I did it, but I think people who LOVE being married are taking drugs.

Almost got married, found out he had a shiteload of debt. Peaced out.

Yes, for 10 years until my husband went home to Heaven from a brain tumor. Miss him and being married.

No, and it's for the best. I can't imagine wanting to marry anyone who would want to put up with me.

sethweese wrote:Got to throw in another AMEN !!! on that

Don't forget a "Praise the Lord!!!"

I was married for 13 unlucky years. Emotional abuse and the ex's repeated affairs ended our marriage, and I felt wonderful after I broke it off. I have two loving adult children and grands, and I've never regretted the decision. Freedom and self-respect are worth way more than material things, and life is too short to remain in a bad marriage.

mjc613 wrote:Yes, I'm married. Do I hate it? No. Do I love it?????? Sometimes? I'm glad I did it, but I think people who LOVE being married are taking drugs.

Sorry to hear that. I love being married (11 years and counting), and AFAIK, I don't take any drugs. Just gotta find the right person and realize marriage is about giving instead of receiving.

Unfortunately, self-sacrifice is a dying art in this country.

I felt relief after the first divorce and sadness after the second. Hopefully, 3rd time will be a charm

maraich wrote:Exactly!!

Don't believe in marriage. I consider it a form of slavery.

You have a point because the "Honey Do" list from a wife is unending!

larsont7 wrote: Just gotta find the right person and realize marriage is about giving instead of receiving.

Unfortunately, self-sacrifice is a dying art in this country.

This. A mystery not all can comprehend.

larsont7 wrote: Just gotta find the right person and realize marriage is about giving instead of receiving.

I agree. First wife was all about her. Second wife is my partner in life. Almost 22 years of togetherness, kids and cheesiness.

Previously, yes, and regretted it. Currently, yes, and happy with it. If time three comes around, I might dig my eyes out with a spork.

Married for 10 years to practice husband. Divorced. Met a fella online, lived together for 13 years before marrying just before his first surgery for brain surgery. Married for just about 11 months before he passed from brain cancer. :-( Miss him terribly.

Going on our honeymoon today! Happily, excitedly married :-)

Another vote for "no and I like it that way." It's great to be single!!

Married nearly 35 years. After all that time I think I have experienced every emotion listed here. But the pluses far outweigh the minuses.

I understand. We'd been HS "sweethearts" and suddenly after almost 10 years he's in love with a man. say what? We're good now, though.

lola1704 wrote:I got a divorce after finding out my husband was gay. They should really have a whole separate category for spouses like me, but instead I'll be forever labeled as "divorced" and not "no really, he lied to me about being gay, what was I supposed to do, stay married to him?"

We weren't exactly married. It was one of those back in the days of common law but because we were still legally residents of one state but living in another... who knows.

bklyn248 wrote:How about "no, and I like it that way!" as an answer option.

I agree! If you haven't, the only option is but I hope to be?

larsont7 wrote:Sorry to hear that. I love being married (11 years and counting), and AFAIK, I don't take any drugs. Just gotta find the right person and realize marriage is about giving instead of receiving.

Unfortunately, self-sacrifice is a dying art in this country.

Ditto. I give 110% and he gives 110%. Works great when you find someone who can do that instead of screwing you over. He was well worth the wait!

No, not if I can help it.

Engaged to be married this summer! Very much looking forward to it.

lola1704 wrote:I got a divorce after finding out my husband was gay. They should really have a whole separate category for spouses like me, but instead I'll be forever labeled as "divorced" and not "no really, he lied to me about being gay, what was I supposed to do, stay married to him?"

My wife and I were friends with a couple that ended up like that. They were married 2 years, and one day he told her he likes it when a guy drives the shuttle to brown town. They separated, but didn't divorce for a few years... I think it was because of grants they were getting for school.

Ha! Your concept of marriage must be very different than mine. My wife and I are equal partners in our relationship. Sometimes she defers to me, sometimes I to her. We have our areas of expertise and it works really well for us. The fact that monogamy prevents STDs is a real bonus...

maraich wrote:Exactly!!

Don't believe in marriage. I consider it a form of slavery.

jojodaclown wrote:he likes it when a guy drives the shuttle to brown town.

You're hilarious and you seem to know it. Yeah.

Meanwhile, Woot, why are you fishing?

lola1704 wrote:I got a divorce after finding out my husband was gay. They should really have a whole separate category for spouses like me, but instead I'll be forever labeled as "divorced" and not "no really, he lied to me about being gay, what was I supposed to do, stay married to him?"

According to the anti-gay crowd, yes.

drpoulin wrote:Meanwhile, Woot, why are you fishing?

...

Suddenly, I want to know who set up the poll. ;D


Not that it matters, since I'm married.

sushiserv wrote:Almost got married, found out he had a shiteload of debt. Peaced out.

Same here... got a clue when he asked with no ring and couldn't save enough to get me a crackerjack ring but what a nice new spoiler he had!

39 years this August...2 wonderful children...would I do it again..I'd be a lot older when I did and live a little. That is my advice to my wonderful daughter (20). Have a career first. I've been very lucky.